Q: at work.When I'm at work,I don't feel relaxed enough to do my job,I try and relax,but I just can''t seem to.I don't want to make her upset about me telling her how I feel. Any suggestions,ideas?
A: Yes... basically how you feel, it's a matter of you ! So, let's say. You don't have to involve her in how you feel. You may have some feeling into her and for her. Maybe you like she. MAybe she's pretty, symphathetic. But you shall differentiate, this feelling, from the feelling for work. Ok, that's an important issue. Then, you anxiety, might be for several reasons. The first could be that your are doing somehting that you don't really want to do. That's waht creates tension. You have to recognize this.(don't try to control tension so, bad, just by reconginzing this it's a good step). Therefore, you may have to deep quite some, to get what should be better for you. Then, you might be nervous for some other reasons. For example, some extrange situation at home or otherwhere(this seriuosly happened to me). And this affecting your whole persona, and naturally, going with you to work. Maybe you are single and she's putting you nervous by her prescence. I don't know. You can dig a bit something in yourself and check this what really might be going on. Good luck. And love to you.